Publications
December
2014I Choose Me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJRhZ9V3bbw I'd like to share with you a powerful song by Tamia, shared with me by a beautiful young woman on her way to her powerful self. Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJRhZ9V3bbw And here are the words: "Me" [VERSE 1] Love was the former owner But quiet
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2014Reblog from Picking Up the Pieces:
Picking Up the Pieces Releasing the Pressure: I Promise You Aren't Losing Your Mind
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2014On fire
So, he finally pushed you too far. You ignited like a bomb, blasting, explosive. You might even have gone into a blackout, so overwhelming was your rage. The years of abuse brought you to the point where you could not live another moment holding the pain, feelings of betrayal and hurt. It wasn't even a conscious choice. Afterward, like a hangover, you felt empty. Did you feel guilt? Oddly not. The gre
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2014Love and the Stockholm syndrome: Why do I still love the abuser?
This is a question generated by the last post, and it is a good question: “Is it possible to say yes to one’s self but underneath still love the abuser? Or can it just be a comfort zone for the victim? Is it at all possible for the victim to explode once with fury and rage and not allow herself to go back to that dark place?” For the purposes of this blog entry, let’s take a look a
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2014Are you in danger of becoming like your abuser?
If you stay long enough under the yoke of the abuser, you are at risk of conversion. How long can you take the manipulations, unjust attacks, torture before you turn to darkness yourself? Your goodness, hope and charitable nature can turn to rage, hatred and the desire for revenge. Do you build up this fire of anger against the injustice? Do you find your body too small to contain the fire within? Are your thoughts turning more and more...
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2014A Call Out: Dare to Live
A brief time here. I have lived in shrunken space long enough. I dare to live, for this small, dark space is no life. I dar
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2014Just what will it take?
How much is enough? Just how much abuse will be the marker when you say: ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I urge you to see and feel your own pain and suffering. Can you go on in this much pain? You may say, what have I got to lose? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
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2014Response to "Excellent Post"
“Excellent post! It’s very overwhelming when your emotions are controlled by the abuser. Being with an abuser who has you so embedded with fear, you feel like you are cemented by their unpredictable behaviors. My question is how do you overcome those emotions that the abuser planted in you. I feel like a flower that is being strangled by the weeds that grow around it where it’s unable to grow and be nurture
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2014Mercy: How to break out of an abusive relationship
My heart aches for you. Here are some thoughts: Breaking out of an abusive relationship may be even harder than being in one. What you have gone through so far is unbearable. Getting out of it will even be more difficult. If you are really seeing that your relationship is abusive and toxic, if you have tried your ways and it hasn’t
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2014Reblog from Elephant, Dedicated to the Mindful Life
Puzzle Pieces: Letting Relationships End. ~ Sara Courter Via Sara Courter Nov 23, 2013 Why, I wonder, is it such a curious notion that sometimes i
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2014June
2014Re-blog: Co-parenting with the sociopath
This information is so valuable that I offer it to you here, from positivagirl: Co-parenting with the sociopath - separation!, sociopath Co-parenting with a male Sociopath – Surviving divorce and separation when children are involved!! July 6, 2013
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2014Psychiatric Diagnoses of Abusers
What are the possible Psychiatric diagnoses of abusers? It might be helpful to understand the clinical diagnoses of those who create the most damage to personal relationships, those who are emotional abusers, manipulators, and controllers. Most often they are put in the category of Narcissistic Personality disorder, but there are other psychiatric conditions that may fit just as well
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2014Wisdom to Ponder
What a caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls a butterfly. Richard Bach
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2014The Stories We Tell Ourselves
“All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances, and one man in his time plays many parts.” William Shakespeare, As you like it. I have an idea I would like you to consider. We take on multiple roles in our lives, sometimes contradictory. Our roles are defined by our early experiences, traumas, losses and joys. Even as adults we can find ourselves stuck in a role, like that...
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