"Cynthia M Chase Healing 2014 in blogging Annual Report A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 2,200 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 37 trips to carry that many people. There were 35 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 10 MB. That's about 3 pictures per month. The busiest day of the year was March 7th with 48 views. The most popular post that day was...

    This time of year - the end of one year, and the beginning of another - invites reflection.  Have you held true to your (real) self?  Have you slipped?  Do you feel that familiar combination of guilt and shame for choices you have made that dishonor yourself?  Sometimes during the holidays the image of how it "should be" and how different your own

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJRhZ9V3bbw I'd like to share with you a powerful song by Tamia, shared with me by a beautiful young woman on her way to her powerful self.  Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJRhZ9V3bbw   And here are the words: "Me" [VERSE 1] Love was the former owner But quiet

Picking Up the Pieces Releasing the Pressure: I Promise You Aren't Losing Your Mind

So, he finally pushed you too far.  You ignited like a bomb, blasting, explosive.  You might even have gone into a blackout, so overwhelming was your rage.  The years of abuse brought you to the point where you could not live another moment holding the pain, feelings of betrayal and hurt.  It wasn't even a conscious choice. Afterward, like a hangover, you felt empty.  Did you feel guilt?  Oddly not.  The gre

This is a question generated by the last post, and it is a good question: “Is it possible to say yes to one’s self but underneath still love the abuser? Or can it just be a comfort zone for the victim? Is it at all possible for the victim to explode once with fury and rage and not allow herself to go back to that dark place?” For the purposes of this blog entry, let’s take a look a

If you stay long enough under the yoke of the abuser, you are at risk of conversion. How long can you take the manipulations, unjust attacks, torture before you turn to darkness yourself?   Your goodness, hope and charitable nature can turn to rage, hatred and the desire for revenge. Do you build up this fire of anger against the injustice? Do you find your body too small to contain the fire within? Are your thoughts turning more and more...

A brief time here. I have lived in shrunken space long enough. I dare to live, for this small, dark space is no life. I dar

How much is enough?  Just how much abuse will be the marker when you say:  ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I urge you to see and feel your own pain and suffering.  Can you go on in this much pain?  You may say, what have I got to lose? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

“Excellent post! It’s very overwhelming when your emotions are controlled by the abuser. Being with an abuser who has you so embedded with fear, you feel like you are cemented by their unpredictable behaviors. My question is how do you overcome those emotions that the abuser planted in you. I feel like a flower that is being strangled by the weeds that grow around it where it’s unable to grow and be nurture

  My heart aches for you. Here are some thoughts:   Breaking out of an abusive relationship may be even harder than being in one. What you have gone through so far is unbearable. Getting out of it will even be more difficult.   If you are really seeing that your relationship is abusive and toxic, if you have tried your ways and it hasn’t

Puzzle Pieces: Letting Relationships End. ~ Sara Courter Via Sara Courter Nov 23, 2013 Why, I wonder, is it such a curious notion that sometimes i

The distance between what we wish versus reality

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    What are the possible Psychiatric diagnoses of abusers? It might be helpful to understand the clinical diagnoses of those who create the most damage to personal relationships, those who are emotional abusers, manipulators, and controllers. Most often they are put in the category of Narcissistic Personality disorder, but there are other psychiatric conditions that may fit just as well