Addendum to the last post: "The fog is beginning to lift. I am raw and bleeding.  Hatred has replaced fear now. It is as though hatred has taken on a life of its own.  It consumes me like a fire.  It permeates every cell of my body.  I am deeply embarrassed by the years of pain and hiding.  But isn't that what he wanted? I lost my voice.  He systematically, brick by brick, took down the found

Here is the transcript of a therapy session with a client who is suffering from an extended abusive relationship.  The next blog will attempt to answer some of the questions raised by her disturbing story. "I fear change.  I tried to prevent his explosions by going along with his abuses.  He trained me to keep quiet while at the same time his viciousness escalated.  I kept his secret, but I didn't even know it.

You know you have been disrespected.  You know what happened is not right.  You know that you "should" just walk on, so why is it so hard to let go? The longer you hang on (in person or in your head)  the more the fabric of your self is shredded and bloody.  You know that.  You know you were used.  You know you were toyed with, at the same time as you poured the dreams into a vesse

It may be hard to imagine that we avoid our lives, but think about it.  How easy is it to get caught up in everyday life, in all the things that we have to "do."  The lists, the errands, the running here and there.  It is almost as though we are set on automatic pilot, robotic.  Experiencing life from the inside is a very different matter.  Just sitting and listening to that "small voice" deep inside may at first be...

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Yes, the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself.  You are there from the moment of your birth to the moment of your death.  You have the opportunity to be intimate with you, to love you, to be your own best friend, to care for you and to listen to your thoughts, feelings and dreams.  You have dynamic assertive, masculine urges, and also nurturing, soft, feminine and opening part

Every choice we makes creates the fabric of our lives:  it is how we create our very reality.  You often hear "follow your heart" as advice when it comes to personal relationships.  While that may be good advice if your heart is clear, if it has been twisted by betrayal and hurt, it can lead in the wrong direction.  Check out your motivation:  is it fear or love based.  For example, do

  Do you wonder what you can do for yourself in order to move beyond the limitations of your dysfunctional relationship with yourself and your significant other?  Do you feel blocked and want to move beyond  self-limiting beliefs that keep you in an abusive or limiting relationship?  Energy blockages in your body can keep you down and stuck. Everything is energy!  Thoughts, feelings, memories, pain, heartbreak, everything is held in (and around

Beautiful woman:  Dom la Nena - she sings of the heart.  In Spanish it also means, my love, and here she creates a love song to herself.  And this one is for you too: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BXBKKJU-hKE  

"Cynthia M Chase Healing 2014 in blogging Annual Report A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 2,200 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 37 trips to carry that many people. There were 35 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 10 MB. That's about 3 pictures per month. The busiest day of the year was March 7th with 48 views. The most popular post that day was...

    This time of year - the end of one year, and the beginning of another - invites reflection.  Have you held true to your (real) self?  Have you slipped?  Do you feel that familiar combination of guilt and shame for choices you have made that dishonor yourself?  Sometimes during the holidays the image of how it "should be" and how different your own